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Wonderful Wedding
I know I left you hanging . . . but really, that was enough for one read!
Tick, tick, tick . . .
I left a message for George the other day since he’s been doing his Scarlet Pimpernel trick and impersonating the invisible man. It said: ‘tick, tick, tick, George. That’s the sound of time ticking away in the lead up to 15th March. WHERE ARE YOU? Tick, tick, tick . . . ‘
Ring on my finger at last!
Wheels, Wine and a Ring
Thanks for all your worried emails re my wobbly wheels! It turned out that the bone-rattling rides over the roads around here have been loosening the nuts on my bolts and THAT’S why the wheel fell off! Actually, on consecutive runs over the next few days I found first the nut, then the washer, then the bolt at various stages on the farm road!
So it wasn’t too expensive, and I got my car back on Monday (phew!) and got back into the daily grind of winding up to the office in Comboyne. It’s been raining for a week now. So my grass is growing and so are the weeds! Phoenix has learned to chase the cows away from the water troughs on command, because they love to drink all the horses’ water rather than sliding down the bank to the river and then trying to clamber back up the greasy slopes. George has been very quiet because the lady who looks after Marcia has been away so he has been at home with her.
Ged finally wined and dined me on Friday. We are sampling local restaurants so we can recommend fine dining for the folks when they are here in March. We went to a little BYO restaurant called Fusion 7 with a bottle of Australian Sparkling I had been recommended to try for the wedding. One sip and I was grimacing as the sugary sweet bubbles tasted like alcoholic lemonade to me – gross! Back to the drawing board on something cheaper than the Widow for the wedding guests! But the food was FANTASTIC. Truly excellent food in this tiny little restaurant in Port Macquarie of all places. Very pleased with that. Ged had to drink most of the bottle, but even he couldn’t stomach too much of it! Needless to say, I drove home!
We put the deposit down on the ring so it’s a work in progress now – 12 pink diamonds in a platinum channel setting – practical for my hard working life, pink diamonds because they are rare and exclusively Australian and platinum because it lasts and hopefully so will we!
We spent the weekend at a succession of parties with Ged’s family. I was the entertainment as far as I can work out! The fiancee was wheeled out in front of an enormous number of rellies (haven’t they heard of condoms???!!) at first brother Denis’s 34th Birthday Party on Saturday night, and then dad Denis’s (I know, I know, WHY do people name their children after the father?) 70th on Sunday. I liked his sister very much, and ditto the next brother up. I didn’t think much of the eldest but then as Ged used to work for him I know too many tales out of school! Now I know how intimidating all the out-laws must find OUR family!! And right now I have sworn off a McCarthy Christmas (where can I run, where can I hide??) but who knows, I may mellow as the merryness of the season melts my hardened heart . . . !
Whirlwind Romance . . . Love and Marriage!
For those of you who haven’t heard the news, here’s the official announcement. I’m getting MARRIED!!
I know it all seems very whirlwind romance, but as Ged says ‘it just feels so RIGHT’. It’s very real and practical and down to earth (it would have to be trying to build this house together!). He has been sure almost from the word go but I am the one who is commitment phobic and every step of the way I have palpitations. He actually asked me at the beginning of September and once I got over the shock I said ‘probably’ (so romantic!!) And then once I’d had a chance to process it all in my head and my heart and know that we have a good solid future together and what we have is strong enough to weather a life together, I said yes.
We kept it to ourselves because it was nice to have this special secret between us but last week we let the cat out of the bag so you can all share in our joy and start booking your flights etc!!
We are already beginning to understand how stressful planning a wedding can be because finding a date that you all agree on has been a nightmare and while I have had to forego my first choice in order to fit in with the UK delegation, and then had to abandon my second choice because of the Catholic contingent, but we have finally found a date that we are sticking with (3rd time lucky!) so set the date in your diaries now . . . . 15th MARCH 2008. Which Ged worked out is exactly a year to the day since we first met on the farm so that actually is perfect (he is such a romantic!)
Ged is already talking about just eloping in order to forego all the stress and fuss . . . But I have to have my big day (finally!)
I feel a bit like Miss Haversham, I’ve been sitting on the shelf in my wedding dress for so long! Time to dust down my frock and chase away the spiders . . . !
It’s a farm wedding and the weather should be perfect (about 70 degrees in the old money) so it’s pretty frocks for the girls and no morning suits for the men. Just light suits or nice shirts and pants (trousers for you poms!). Don’t worry about hats. I just want a relaxed gathering of our nearest and dearest for a real celebration of love in all its myriad guises – friends, family and lots and lots of children. Come for the weekend and enjoy the property and relax and celebrate with us . . . . official invitations to follow.
I’m so happy and content with this strong, safe, supportive man who loves me totally for who and what I am (no holds barred!) It all feels very natural. He’s nothing like anyone I’ve ever fallen for before, and with my track record, that’s a good thing. He’s a good, good man, with a big and generous heart and soul and he’s brave enough to take me on so that’s pretty impressive!!
He’s going to sell his place and we will make Avalon our home – it’s such a magical place. I can’t wait to share it with you all, so start making whatever plans you need to in order to be here for our special day.
MY LOVELY GED . . .
The ‘C’ word . . . Commitment!
I have had lots of queries from you all about Ged so I suppose I’d better come clean. He’s 38, 5’10, blue eyes and a reasonable head of hair except the Prince Charles bald spot at the back (but he is definitely going to look like Phil before long). He is incredibly kind and sweet and loving and for some strange reason thinks that the sun shines out of my a**se (which, considering he works in the solar industry, is a real worry!) He loves Phee and Tom and the horses and copes well with all their unique foibles – Phee trying to shag him, Tom regurgitating fur balls with monotonous regularity at the moment, and Tinkerbell using every wile and cunning at her disposal to break into the feed (again!) Good thing I have one perfect Baby . . .
He has forsaken his Aussie meat pie and three dead animals a day diet and completely embraced my limited one. He says he doesn’t miss the meat, wants to learn to cook the stuff I cook and has lost weight and is looking better for the shift. At this point my Mother will be screaming ‘quick, don’t let him get away!’ and quite possibly getting straight off a plane from The Rockies and on a Roo bound for Down Under so she can chivy things along!!
He’s completely house trained – does the washing up, washing, pegging clothes on the line etc. He’s also a builder which is a bloody good thing at the moment and a farm boy which means that none of the realities of life on the land worry him one iota. In fact he has 400 acres just up the road. We met when he quoted me for the upgrade of the solar system here and during the long process of the purchase we talked regularly on the phone.
He doesn’t seem fazed by any of my foibles (burping, farting, scratching and snoring!). Someone revive my Mummy!
He wants the 4 C’s – commitment, chaplain, children and did I mention commitment? Now that’s one C word that I have an exceptional amount of difficulty with so I have been running around in ever increasing circles looking for a way out because it all seems too much, too soon, too unexpected. And, of course, having been single for so long, I am used to my own company, my own space, the solitary silence that I share with the animals and nature and the peace of the solo sleeper in the double bed . . .
Am I too old and entrenched in my ways to make room for someone who looks after me so thoroughly? Or do I just need to keep running a little longer til I realise that there’s nowhere to go, nowhere to hide, and that what’s good enough for the rest of the planet might just suit me too?
Luckily Ged (short for Gerard) is patience personifed because we all know I’m not! In some ways we are very alike but I guess in the important things we are polar opposites. He knows I’m a complete worry mutton, and he doesn’t (apparently I look very peaceful when I’m sleeping!) He knows I always have a plan and normally just fits in with it . He doesn’t drink very often (like me he had a battle with the bottle and can take it or leave it) he doesn’t smoke although he once did so snap there. He’s also a Gemini which scares me witless and two generations back his family on both sides came from The Emerald Isle (Catholic) . . . . smelling salts for my Daddy!
He insisted on taking me to meet his family this week which was pretty terrifying. His father is a blue eyed farmer whose family came from Kangaroo Valley so he great tales to tell and we had mutual acquaintances to discuss. His mother is a much harder nut to crack – wary, suspicious and assessing so I might have to get a spade and dig deep there if this goes the distance. Mind you she reads Maeve Binchy and Dick Francis just like me so the heart beats true! And she’s got the complete works of Banjo Patterson so I will need that spade after all . . .
Running, running scared . . . . . .